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Dont Let Others Define Your Happiness

What's happiness on your point of view? Bunch of money to buy shoes or clothes? Enough savings to travel abroad? A good job with high salary? Or just having a quality time with the one you love after a very tiring day? Or got your bachelor degree after a very long and difficult research?

Everyone's definition about happiness is different, indeed. What's makes you happy is not always going the same way on others. And also what makes others happy is not always make you feel the same if you walk in their shoes.

When you see your friends get their master degree, you want it too.
When you see your friends get a fine job with high salary, you want it too.
When you see your friends travel abroad, you want it too.
When you see your friends get married, you want it too.
It's normal, as human being, it's normal to desire something. It's normal if you want those kind of things.

But unfortunately, happiness is defined by society in environment we are currently living in. And what even worse is sometimes they dictate us to do the same.
"Don't pursue any higher degree! No man will approach you!"
"Don't marry him/her! He/she just doesn't compatible with you!"
"Get married at the young age? Is there something bad happened?"
"You wanna be a housewife? What about your bachelors? Go find a job!"

In fact, we still need others' advice to live our life. But, don't let them define your happiness. And the most important thing is, don't be or doing something just for the sake of entertaining society.

You will take a medical school just because your parents ask you to do so? Or because your society show that become a medical student is cool even though you hate biology so much? Good luck.
You stop working at the library, a place you love the most, and start to work at a very notable company just because you need the recognation from your society for your skills? Good luck.

My dear, before you decide what you are going to do, please question yourself first, is that really the thing you want? Is that really the thing you wanna pay for the rest of your life? Because, the very first step to be happy is, define your own happiness.

You want to pursue your master or doctoral degree? Please do.
You want to get married early and become a mother/father at the young age? Please do.
You want to be a doctor? Or teacher? Or a president of world bank? Please do.
You want to be an entrepreneur? Please do
You want to be a lecturer and researcher? Please do as you want.
It's your right to do the things makes you happy. But remember, be responsible for it. And also, there are rules you have to keep. I believe that you are mature enough to see which one is good and which one is bad.

Lastly, whatever you want to do and whatever you are doing now, I hope you do it for your own sake. You have my full support.
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