Hello there!
How's your life so far?
It is boring, isn't it?
I promise you it will be much happier after you find me.
Husband, I haven't know who you are, where are you now, what is your goal in life, your desire, your favorite food or drinks, your sports, your games, your books, and many other things. But it doesn't matter now. We will know each other as the time goes by.
Actually this letter is about some things that I want to tell you. There are some things I want you to know about me. Maybe it can be your consideration before you take me as a part of your life (as you read it, just imagine that we already had our relationship). It's not for my benefit, it is for ours. Both of us. So please, read to the very end.
1. I am human and I have weakness.
I am human, I make mistakes, I commit sins. But trust me, I'm on my way to be a better person now. I have trying to fix myself before I decided to take a bigger responsibility as your wife. I will always try to be a perfect wife for you, but I cannot make it in one try. It needs patience and perhaps it's a never ending process. I hope you understand.
2. Please don't think that I'm not respecting you.
We both know, in Islam, man is a leader. But remember that you are not flawless. Sometimes you make mistake and it's my responsibility to remind you. Please don't think that I'm not respecting you if I have my own argue. I know you have a pride as a man, and I don't want to hurt it. You are my husband and you are the leader. But I will be by your side to remind you if we are stray from the right path.
3. Please involve me to your problem.
People say that men never talk about their problem. They will think and solve it by themselves. But I really hope that if you have a problem, you will let me know it. I cannot promise you a solution, I cannot give you a way out. But I ensure you, you will not go through it alone. I always here for you, even just a pair of ear to listen. Please put your trust on me.
4. Please love and respect your in-laws.
When I officially become your wife, my obligation to you is more than my obligation to my parents. But my parents and family are people I spent my life with before I met you. So please respect and love them like I do. Remember that our marriage is not only about us, but also everyone as well. And I will surely respect your parents and family as much as I love and respect mine. My in-laws are also my parents and siblings.
5. Please remember that our marriage is not a business.
I chose you, and you chose me. And we decided to commit each other. Of course there are some rules for both of us. But please remember that this is not business. We are a partner in life not business. It is not about demanding something in return for everything we give to each other. Or we want an equal profits for each other just like what a business partner do. But we are trying to accept each other the way we are. And trying to improve ourselves at the same time.
6. Be a father.
As a husband, you are also ready to be a father. And I'm sure that you are ready. You know that you are not a football player just because you have a ball. You are a football player if you know how to play it and be expert in it. The same goes to being a father. I know you are busy with your work and carer. But please don't make your children lose their father. Please accompany me to raise them. I know I'm the first madrasah for them, I prepared it even before I met you. But I still need a partner, Being a mother and parents is not an easy job. It is a life time learning. I believe you are the best partner in the world.
7. I have a strange mood swing.
I don't know why, occasionally I feel so blues and I don't feel like doing anything. And if you ask me why, I will not explain the reason because I don't even know it. I used to cry until I feel tired and fall asleep. But since I have you now, your presence is more than a medicine for me.
8. Please maintain my trust on you.
We are not supposed to be always together for 24 hours. You have your own world, so am I. All we have to do is trust to each other. We will communicate and interact with other people everyday. But there is one thing that you have to know, I am an understanding person yet easy to get jealous. I'm sorry if sometimes my act annoys you, sometime I will be over-protective but it doesn't mean that I am not trusting you. Please remind me if you feel uncomfortable by that. I will try to fix myself, and find the right way to show you that I highly respect and fully trust you as a husband. At least you know now, I don't like if there is another person who can make you smile brighter than I can.
9. Please stay.
For me, marriage is a once in a lifetime. Of course there will be ups and downs in our marriage life. there will be bump and even crush in our way. There will be many problems that we have to face, together. But never ever decide to give up as long as we are still breathing. I know it is not as easy as saying it, but whatever happens, and whatever it takes, please stay.
10. Please remember that I love you.
I don't need any single word to explain it to you. Just want you to know that since the day I fixed my heart on you, you are the only one I fell in love to for the rest of my life.
I think that's all. I'm sorry if I cannot express it very well. But at least you know my expectation of you. This is actually my pray and my wish. It's not guarantee you that I will be an ideal wife. Not. As I mention before, I have weakness. It is also not a force for you to be something I want. Just take it as something we have to prepare as a wife/husband.
lastly, I really appreciate it if you read it until the very end. Please give me a reply if you don't mind. Let me know the things I have to know about you. I will wait it. Thank you.
How's your life so far?
It is boring, isn't it?
I promise you it will be much happier after you find me.
Husband, I haven't know who you are, where are you now, what is your goal in life, your desire, your favorite food or drinks, your sports, your games, your books, and many other things. But it doesn't matter now. We will know each other as the time goes by.
Actually this letter is about some things that I want to tell you. There are some things I want you to know about me. Maybe it can be your consideration before you take me as a part of your life (as you read it, just imagine that we already had our relationship). It's not for my benefit, it is for ours. Both of us. So please, read to the very end.
1. I am human and I have weakness.
I am human, I make mistakes, I commit sins. But trust me, I'm on my way to be a better person now. I have trying to fix myself before I decided to take a bigger responsibility as your wife. I will always try to be a perfect wife for you, but I cannot make it in one try. It needs patience and perhaps it's a never ending process. I hope you understand.
2. Please don't think that I'm not respecting you.
We both know, in Islam, man is a leader. But remember that you are not flawless. Sometimes you make mistake and it's my responsibility to remind you. Please don't think that I'm not respecting you if I have my own argue. I know you have a pride as a man, and I don't want to hurt it. You are my husband and you are the leader. But I will be by your side to remind you if we are stray from the right path.
3. Please involve me to your problem.
People say that men never talk about their problem. They will think and solve it by themselves. But I really hope that if you have a problem, you will let me know it. I cannot promise you a solution, I cannot give you a way out. But I ensure you, you will not go through it alone. I always here for you, even just a pair of ear to listen. Please put your trust on me.
4. Please love and respect your in-laws.
When I officially become your wife, my obligation to you is more than my obligation to my parents. But my parents and family are people I spent my life with before I met you. So please respect and love them like I do. Remember that our marriage is not only about us, but also everyone as well. And I will surely respect your parents and family as much as I love and respect mine. My in-laws are also my parents and siblings.
5. Please remember that our marriage is not a business.
I chose you, and you chose me. And we decided to commit each other. Of course there are some rules for both of us. But please remember that this is not business. We are a partner in life not business. It is not about demanding something in return for everything we give to each other. Or we want an equal profits for each other just like what a business partner do. But we are trying to accept each other the way we are. And trying to improve ourselves at the same time.
6. Be a father.
As a husband, you are also ready to be a father. And I'm sure that you are ready. You know that you are not a football player just because you have a ball. You are a football player if you know how to play it and be expert in it. The same goes to being a father. I know you are busy with your work and carer. But please don't make your children lose their father. Please accompany me to raise them. I know I'm the first madrasah for them, I prepared it even before I met you. But I still need a partner, Being a mother and parents is not an easy job. It is a life time learning. I believe you are the best partner in the world.
7. I have a strange mood swing.
I don't know why, occasionally I feel so blues and I don't feel like doing anything. And if you ask me why, I will not explain the reason because I don't even know it. I used to cry until I feel tired and fall asleep. But since I have you now, your presence is more than a medicine for me.
8. Please maintain my trust on you.
We are not supposed to be always together for 24 hours. You have your own world, so am I. All we have to do is trust to each other. We will communicate and interact with other people everyday. But there is one thing that you have to know, I am an understanding person yet easy to get jealous. I'm sorry if sometimes my act annoys you, sometime I will be over-protective but it doesn't mean that I am not trusting you. Please remind me if you feel uncomfortable by that. I will try to fix myself, and find the right way to show you that I highly respect and fully trust you as a husband. At least you know now, I don't like if there is another person who can make you smile brighter than I can.
9. Please stay.
For me, marriage is a once in a lifetime. Of course there will be ups and downs in our marriage life. there will be bump and even crush in our way. There will be many problems that we have to face, together. But never ever decide to give up as long as we are still breathing. I know it is not as easy as saying it, but whatever happens, and whatever it takes, please stay.
10. Please remember that I love you.
I don't need any single word to explain it to you. Just want you to know that since the day I fixed my heart on you, you are the only one I fell in love to for the rest of my life.
I think that's all. I'm sorry if I cannot express it very well. But at least you know my expectation of you. This is actually my pray and my wish. It's not guarantee you that I will be an ideal wife. Not. As I mention before, I have weakness. It is also not a force for you to be something I want. Just take it as something we have to prepare as a wife/husband.
lastly, I really appreciate it if you read it until the very end. Please give me a reply if you don't mind. Let me know the things I have to know about you. I will wait it. Thank you.
Sincerely
-your (future) wife-
RS
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